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Are You About To Get Dumped? Top 10 Signs!
by Sheryl Stewart,posted Jul 6 2010 1:07PM
1. Her friends arenât as friendly as they used to be.
âMaybe she told her girlfriends sheâs going to leave you, and the girlfriends have told their boyfriends and acquaintances,â says Py Kim Conant, author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha. âAll of them pull back somewhat, because theyâre afraid youâll somehow sense from them that somethingâs rotten in Denmark.â
2. She ups her weekly workouts.
âIf your significant other starts to increase her visits to the gym or adds a new workout routine, it may mean that sheâs thinking of finding greener pastures,â says Tina de Lemp, president of B.Fit. âOften, women become lax with their workout schedules when theyâre in a satisfying relationship.â
3. Sheâs not having as much fun you-know-where.
âFor guys, sex without love is not a new idea,â says Patricia from Florida. âBut for a woman, itâs a big deal. Distance sexually means sheâs pulling away, as opposed to a guy who can enjoy it passionately with someone heâll never see again.â
4. Sheâs increasingly hard to reach.
âIf youâre playing voicemail volleyball with her too often, the fact is that sheâs just not that into
For guys, sex without love is not a new idea.
you,â according to Liz Kelly, author of Smart Man Hunting. âIf a woman really wants to reach you, she will go out of her way to find the right time to call.â
5. She gives you that little pat on the back.
âWatch out for this one,â warns Lisa Daily, author of Stop Getting Dumped. âA woman who pats you on the back while giving you a hug is indicating that sheâs uncomfortable for some reason. The bigger the pat, the more discomfort she feels.â
6. Her hug is a little bit off.
While weâre on the subject, Daily continues, âanother important sign that things may not be going well is the amount of contact during her hugs. Full frontal contact is good, but the one-shoulder hug could be a sign that sheâs distancing herself in the relationship. She may be pulling away, or getting ready to break things off.â
7. She stops criticizing you.
This one may sound counterintuitive, but, as Py Kim Conant says, âif she stops complaining about you leaving the toilet seat up, it may mean that sheâs given up on the relationship, and has no energy to put into further criticism of you. In fact, she may not even notice the toilet seat any longer, since her focus is no longer on perfecting you.â
8, 9 and 10. She puts you off, she makes you mad, and she wonât let you kiss her.
âRecently, I went out with a guy for a second date,â says Melissa from Chicago. âBefore this, I tried to give him all the tell-tale signs that I wasnât interested, but he persisted: He wouldnât stop calling, he wouldnât stop asking me out. So just to get him off my back, I agreed to go out one more time.
âDuring the date, to continue to show him I wasnât interested, I brought up every taboo subject I could think of, and tilted my views toward the radical side: feminism, politics, religion, marriage, etc.â, says Melissa.
âWhen he dropped me off, I very clearly leaned toward the door away from him, and hopped out of the car as soon as possible to avoid the terrible âgood night kiss.â After that, he finally figured it out!â My advice to my fellow single guys? Maybe take a hint and bail before things get that bad.