Are you dating a "commitment-phobe"? There's LOTS of 'em out there, but if you know what to look for, you can avoid them and avoid WASTING your time on someone who isn't worth it.
Thanks to yourtango for this list of things to watch out for!
1. He travels for work and is gone for a week or more at a time.
Commitment-phobes, tend to choose jobs that allow for a lot of flexibility to travel, not work in an office and control their own schedules. WATCH OUT as this lifestyle also makes it easier to be unfaithful!
2. You haven't met each other's friends, family and/or co-workers.
Commitment-phobes tend to compartmentalize the different parts of their life. You won't know what their work life is like and you probably won't get to know their friends.
3. You haven't seen his home, and if you have, it looks more like a hotel room.
Commitment-phobes have a habit of living a vagabond lifestyle. Their own homes are often nothing more than a place to shower, change clothes and sleep.
4. He's attentive and charming when you're together.
Commitment-phobes move in fast. They use their charm and learned social skills to pursue you ardently until they win you over. Once they have you, the less attractive parts of their personality start to show.
5. He doesn't take no for an answer.
Commitment-phobes don't do conflict and can't deal with rejection. If you start standing up for yourself, he'll soon be gone.
6. He's a last-minute planner.
Planning time with you is a form of commitment to you. The Commitment-phobe is going to be uncomfortable if you take charge of how the two of you spend your time. As part of his normal mode of operation he's going to want to stay in control of what the two of you do with your time together. If he does agree to do something you want to do, he'll typically be late or cancel at the last minute.
7. You feel crazy.
The Commitment-phobe finds a way to blame you for the situation you find yourselves in and you start doubting yourself and wonder if you are the crazy one.
8. He lost interest when things got serious.
Commitment-phobes love the chase but not the capture. They have a history of brief, passionate relationships that end fairly quickly. They are usually quick to explain these breakups away as being the fault of the former girlfriend.